About Last Night…

Let me set the scene for you.

The lights were low, the candles were flickering, casting an amber hue over the red velvet curtains and across the floor. 
The soft fur rug had been spread out and scatter cushions placed for comfort.
An antipasto platter lay to the side with two glasses of sparkling water and a scotch on the rocks for my friend (just as he likes it). 
Tonight Tony was visiting my city and his arrival was imminent.
I also had some Wildfire warming and cooling arousal oils for us to try along with a few toys that he preferred. I was ready.
 

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Every Body is different

All bodies are different

I was a nurse before I started working in sex work so have been getting up close and personal with people of all shapes and sizes for many years now. This industry is no different. I often get asked by friends how I do it, being intimtate with people that I don’t know. What if they are ugly, what if they smell? Do I fake it, and do I have a good time? Do I just close my eyes and hope it’s over soon, or just think about they money? Continue reading

The Art of Talking Dirty

Our initial contact started with a near perfect text enquiry **(see below) and progressed to a phone call as per my screening process. Once we were talking things took a change of pace. I have been told that I seem direct and business like when texting  and that when we chat on the phone or meet in person, I seem like a different person (I am running a business so that’s why its business like). Making an enquiry via text is great, and here is Sam’s inital enquiry.

**” Hi my name is Sam and I would like to book for an hr Initmate Encounter on Tuesday at 2pm. Please let me know if you are free and I am happy to send the deposit etc that you require”.  This is an excellent enquiry and is music to my ears. I just respond with the relevant information and once the deposit is paid the booking is confirmed, we have a brief chat on the phone and Sam and I catch up on Tuesday.

What can Tantra do for you?

It is amazing that in this day and age where communication is so easy and people can connect all over the world in an instant  that some people have not been held or touched by another person in years.

What does that say about our world and our so-called communities?

We all talk about rescuing refugees, but what about the people in our street, living behind closed doors, who may be connecting across the internet or in brief social interactions and yet the opportunity for the most nourishing and nurturing experience of simple, agenda-free touch is denied them.

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Booking ahead v’s booking in the moment.

We all know that there is no controlling the libido – it wants what it wants. And it’s driven by varying circumstances such as sexual hunger, desire, loneliness, grief, drugs, alcohol, the list goes on.

But then why do some people plan out their intimate encounters, seeking out escorts who are touring to their city months in advance v’s the client that calls and says he is in your suburb and can come over now. Continue reading

To GFE or not to GFE that is the Question.

So what is a GFE? Well it means different things to different people. There is a show about it called “The Girlfriend Experience” and I would assume that when most people think about a girlfriend experience, they are picturing what happens between themselves and their girlfriends when they have them. And this is where the shades of grey happen. I often joke to clients that GFE means that you will ask me to have sex and I will tell you I have a headache! Hehe.

But seriously, without lists and tick and flick sheets who knows what is included in the service that any provider does.
I am not a natural oral provider – many are and I am not. Its a choice that I have made and although I provide GFE, I do not provide natural oral in that service or any of my services. When I state this to clients, some then ask if I include it in my PSE service. And again the answer is no. Continue reading

The purpose of life or life’s purpose?

As those of you know that have met me or have stalked my profile – I love to travel. In fact its my addiction. I work A LOT just so that I can travel. And as soon as I am about half way through a trip I am planning the next one. Not to say that I’m not enjoying the holiday that I am having, but certainly thoughts are in motion for the place that will become my next holiday destination.

And so whilst I was wandered the deserts and mountains in the northern hemisphere summer, my next project appeared. Yes, its a project, but actually its more of a purpose or a why. Continue reading

Holidays are here!! Look out summer, here I come.

As some of you know, my addiction is travel. I spend about 7 months of the year in Australia and the rest travelling about, reconnecting to myself, my loved ones and this big beautiful planet.

The time has come again and I wanted to thank everyone that I have spent time with this semester and look forward to seeing you again after the holidays, when I will be relaxed, refreshed and raring to go. My work is more than a job, its a lifestyle and you make it possible for me to live this way, so I truly thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I also wanted to thank the people who work in this industry, those that I engage with on social media, and those that I lurk in the background of your accounts, you really make such a difference to the work that I do each and everyday. Whether we have connection or not through written word, or via a group or just looking at your accounts, you give me the strength, the passion and the drive to continue each day as I know I am not alone. Its hard being a solo operator on many levels and having you at the end of my finger tips helps tremendously, so thank you.

Two weeks left until I go, but just getting organised. So for those I have yet to see – see you in the next two weeks and for those that I wont see til later in the year, see you then. Be safe and have a great winter in Australia.

All the best

Lots of love

Rubyx

Human Connection …..Its all about the communication

Whether we choose to communicate via social media, phone, text, or face to face – it can really be fraught with dangers. What is going on in our heads is not what is coming out of our mouths via writing or speaking. We all have our own filters, and we hear or read what another has said and then run it through our own filter – and this filter is flawed. It has holes, grooves, blocked holes, and rust patches. Its designed to protect us, to make us safe and yet sometimes it stops us from seeing the learning or the beauty in a situation.

I recently had an interaction with a client who phoned me when I was on tour. I don’t usually take phone calls and this was from a home phone number so I let it go to voicemail. When I checked the message it was from a man with a very slurred voice. Initially I thought he sounded disabled and so was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt but could not understand  Continue reading