The Art of Talking Dirty

Our initial contact started with a near perfect text enquiry **(see below) and progressed to a phone call as per my screening process. Once we were talking things took a change of pace. I have been told that I seem direct and business like when texting  and that when we chat on the phone or meet in person, I seem like a different person (I am running a business so that’s why its business like). Making an enquiry via text is great, and here is Sam’s inital enquiry.

**” Hi my name is Sam and I would like to book for an hr Initmate Encounter on Tuesday at 2pm. Please let me know if you are free and I am happy to send the deposit etc that you require”.  This is an excellent enquiry and is music to my ears. I just respond with the relevant information and once the deposit is paid the booking is confirmed, we have a brief chat on the phone and Sam and I catch up on Tuesday.

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It is amazing that in this day and age where communication is so easy and people can connect all over the world in an instant  that some people have not been held or touched by another person in years.

What does that say about our world and our so-called communities?

We all talk about rescuing refugees, but what about the people in our street, living behind closed doors, who may be connecting across the internet or in brief social interactions and yet the opportunity for the most nourishing and nurturing experience of simple, agenda-free touch is denied them.

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Booking ahead v’s booking in the moment.

We all know that there is no controlling the libido – it wants what it wants. And it’s driven by varying circumstances such as sexual hunger, desire, loneliness, grief, drugs, alcohol, the list goes on.

But then why do some people plan out their intimate encounters, seeking out escorts who are touring to their city months in advance v’s the client that calls and says he is in your suburb and can come over now. Continue reading

To GFE or not to GFE that is the Question.

So what is a GFE? Well it means different things to different people. There is a show about it called “The Girlfriend Experience” and I would assume that when most people think about a girlfriend experience, they are picturing what happens between themselves and their girlfriends when they have them. And this is where the shades of grey happen. I often joke to clients that GFE means that you will ask me to have sex and I will tell you I have a headache! Hehe.

But seriously, without lists and tick and flick sheets who knows what is included in the service that any provider does.
I am not a natural oral provider – many are and I am not. Its a choice that I have made and although I provide GFE, I do not provide natural oral in that service or any of my services. When I state this to clients, some then ask if I include it in my PSE service. And again the answer is no. Continue reading

The purpose of life or life’s purpose?

As those of you know that have met me or have stalked my profile – I love to travel. In fact its my addiction. I work A LOT just so that I can travel. And as soon as I am about half way through a trip I am planning the next one. Not to say that I’m not enjoying the holiday that I am having, but certainly thoughts are in motion for the place that will become my next holiday destination.

And so whilst I was wandered the deserts and mountains in the northern hemisphere summer, my next project appeared. Yes, its a project, but actually its more of a purpose or a why. Continue reading

Holidays are here!! Look out summer, here I come.

As some of you know, my addiction is travel. I spend about 7 months of the year in Australia and the rest travelling about, reconnecting to myself, my loved ones and this big beautiful planet.

The time has come again and I wanted to thank everyone that I have spent time with this semester and look forward to seeing you again after the holidays, when I will be relaxed, refreshed and raring to go. My work is more than a job, its a lifestyle and you make it possible for me to live this way, so I truly thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I also wanted to thank the people who work in this industry, those that I engage with on social media, and those that I lurk in the background of your accounts, you really make such a difference to the work that I do each and everyday. Whether we have connection or not through written word, or via a group or just looking at your accounts, you give me the strength, the passion and the drive to continue each day as I know I am not alone. Its hard being a solo operator on many levels and having you at the end of my finger tips helps tremendously, so thank you.

Two weeks left until I go, but just getting organised. So for those I have yet to see – see you in the next two weeks and for those that I wont see til later in the year, see you then. Be safe and have a great winter in Australia.

All the best

Lots of love


Human Connection …..Its all about the communication

Whether we choose to communicate via social media, phone, text, or face to face – it can really be fraught with dangers. What is going on in our heads is not what is coming out of our mouths via writing or speaking. We all have our own filters, and we hear or read what another has said and then run it through our own filter – and this filter is flawed. It has holes, grooves, blocked holes, and rust patches. Its designed to protect us, to make us safe and yet sometimes it stops us from seeing the learning or the beauty in a situation.

I recently had an interaction with a client who phoned me when I was on tour. I don’t usually take phone calls and this was from a home phone number so I let it go to voicemail. When I checked the message it was from a man with a very slurred voice. Initially I thought he sounded disabled and so was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt but could not understand  Continue reading

So why do you do this job??? A friend asked me today and here’s my response.

Everyone in the world is different and so is every courtesan, escort, hooker, prostitute, hoe, call girl, whore, street walker, sex worker, pro….the list goes on. These names come from others and depend on peoples opinions of others who work in my industry. What we call ourselves is also subjective. I don’t mind being called an escort, a hooker a hoe but actually don’t like prostitute. Go figure

For many the idea of a sex worker et al is Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman. Street walking prostitute doing it tough, living ruled by a pimp, looking for a better life and a better job and along comes Prince Charming and bam…saved. Every little girls dream except the hooker part perhaps.

The industry is portrayed that way, drugs, low self esteem, poor education, no other options, bad relationships, mental health issues etc etc etc. And some of it is true and yet for some of us its not. I am just your average everyday person. I was married, had a family that have now grown, went to university, have two degrees, and have a massive addiction for Travel!! haha got you there.

I love travel. Working 9–5, 48 weeks a year is not my kind of life. Working for 6–8 months and travelling the rest is more my kind of lifestyle. Hopping from city to city when I’m in Australia visiting clients and being able to be flown out to meet someone remotely who is lonely — now that is what I call living. And it takes a risk taker to embrace this kind of lifestyle. I have no real belongings anymore. No car, no furniture etc. All those things have gone by the wayside as my lifestyle choice has become more and more free. And its liberating. Continue reading

BDSM & Kink – its all about the contracts and agreements

I met up with someone who works in the same industry yesterday. Because I work privately in a job that has certain social stigma it can get kinda lonely and so its nice sometimes to meet up with others and have chats about what we go through in the industry. Sometimes these catch ups are good, enlightening, funny even fun and other times they go south.

And yesterday was one such meeting.

It started out nice a few weeks ago, we met for coffee and a chat and seemed to hit it off. A few laughs, some sharing of information to help each other out when travelling about and we were on our way. We then both travelled to different cities and it was nice to chat on the phone at various times in the day to off load about clients, hotel rooms and scratchy towels, united in the experience of being on the road.

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