communication

Every Body is different

All bodies are different

I was a nurse before I started working in sex work so have been getting up close and personal with people of all shapes and sizes for many years now. This industry is no different. I often get asked by friends how I do it, being intimtate with people that I don’t know. What if they are ugly, what if they smell? Do I fake it, and do I have a good time? Do I just close my eyes and hope it’s over soon, or just think about they money? Continue reading

What can Tantra do for you?

It is amazing that in this day and age where communication is so easy and people can connect all over the world in an instant  that some people have not been held or touched by another person in years.

What does that say about our world and our so-called communities?

We all talk about rescuing refugees, but what about the people in our street, living behind closed doors, who may be connecting across the internet or in brief social interactions and yet the opportunity for the most nourishing and nurturing experience of simple, agenda-free touch is denied them.

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To GFE or not to GFE that is the Question.

So what is a GFE? Well it means different things to different people. There is a show about it called “The Girlfriend Experience” and I would assume that when most people think about a girlfriend experience, they are picturing what happens between themselves and their girlfriends when they have them. And this is where the shades of grey happen. I often joke to clients that GFE means that you will ask me to have sex and I will tell you I have a headache! Hehe.

But seriously, without lists and tick and flick sheets who knows what is included in the service that any provider does.
I am not a natural oral provider – many are and I am not. Its a choice that I have made and although I provide GFE, I do not provide natural oral in that service or any of my services. When I state this to clients, some then ask if I include it in my PSE service. And again the answer is no. Continue reading

Human Connection …..Its all about the communication

Whether we choose to communicate via social media, phone, text, or face to face – it can really be fraught with dangers. What is going on in our heads is not what is coming out of our mouths via writing or speaking. We all have our own filters, and we hear or read what another has said and then run it through our own filter – and this filter is flawed. It has holes, grooves, blocked holes, and rust patches. Its designed to protect us, to make us safe and yet sometimes it stops us from seeing the learning or the beauty in a situation.

I recently had an interaction with a client who phoned me when I was on tour. I don’t usually take phone calls and this was from a home phone number so I let it go to voicemail. When I checked the message it was from a man with a very slurred voice. Initially I thought he sounded disabled and so was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt but could not understand  Continue reading